Clay Andrews (from ) discusses signs of a healthy relationship.
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What is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship is one that allows both you and your partner to get your needs met and to express yourselves fully.
The requires a lot of transparency and honesty with one another. There is a lot of relationship advice that will tell you that you should act or behave a certain way during the early stages in order to impress your partner.
This isn’t a good idea. Good relationships are built on a foundation of trust and honestly.
If you can’t be honest with who you are what what is going on with you and you have to resort to putting on an act, then you may actually be involved in a bait-and-switch with your partner.
This is NOT how to have a healthy relationship.
In fact, this isn’t going to set you up for success because you aren’t leading with a genuine expression of who you are.
You’re holding back and hiding.
So how is your partner supposed to learn if you and them are a good fit for one another or not?
They aren’t going to know.
The point isn’t to get your partner to accept you or approve of you by wearing a mask and conforming to what you think they want you to be.
The real approach is to learn how to be 100% you. If your partner likes you, that is excellent.
But if they don’t, no big deal.
After all, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later that the two of you are not compatible with one another.
So, learn how to be you. Be the best expression of you.
And let things play out the way that they play out. That’s the secret to having a great relationship. Be yourself. If your partner loves and accepts you the way you are, that’s the most important thing.